Being a Mom of Your Word

“Sometimes when you say it will be just a second, it is actually a minute.”- My daughter

I’ve realized something lately in my parenting that I am saddened by and very much desire to change. Though I feel that I have always highly valued being truthful and honest with my children, God has been convicting me of the fact that sometimes I am not 100% truthful, and sometimes I do fail to keep my word when I am more than able to keep it.

This mostly looks like the quote above. I say I’ll be a second, but it’s actually a minute. I say, yes, I’ll sew up a hole in a stuffed animal today, but then all of the busyness of life creeps in, along with unexpected things more urgent than the torn toy, and I don’t get around to it until tomorrow. The toy is forgotten anyway, so it seems unnecessary, but I fail to keep my word. A child asks to read a particular book together after pre-school, to which I gladly agree, but I then end up forgetting about it as the day goes on, having not placed high enough of an importance on my word, only to be reminded before bed, “Mom, you forgot to read us the book when we got home!”

These are not big promises, and in none of these situations do I intend to be dishonest with my kids, nor do I promise them things that I don’t really mean to keep, but all the same, God has been showing me that I am not reflecting His character when I do this. Though I am not intentionally being dishonest, I am also not valuing the keeping of my own promises and am not properly reflecting the character Christ by being a mom of my word.

God ALWAYS keeps His word to us and I so desire to better reflect that aspect of His character! I love that I can read the word of God and know that it will happen exactly as He has said. I don’t have to worry about if he’ll forget, or if he’ll change His mind, or if something more important will come up. He highly esteems the absolute truth of His own word. He always keeps His promises, and this brings me so much peace in my own life. I know that I will never succeed in perfectly modeling Christ-like character to my children, but I do so want to be more like Him in the complete truthfulness of what I speak. I want my own children to have the peace of knowing that they can always trust my word.

“God is not man, that he should lie,
or a son of man, that he should change his mind.
Has he said, and will he not do it?
Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it?”- Numbers 23:19

Of course we are not omniscient and able to foresee all situations that truly might necessitate a change in plans, but more often than not, for me at least, the changes in plan are due to my own thoughtlessness or to not valuing my own promises because the promises don’t seem too important. Perhaps the tiny promise itself is not significant, but the result in continuing this sort of pattern would be that my children will have less respect for the things that I say because they won’t know if I am being entirely truthful. It doesn’t really seem to matter on a small issue of  “a second vs. a minute,” but it definitely matters that they can trust me when I am sharing gospel truth and other crucial life lessons.

How about you? Do you ever struggle with this at all? What helps you to be a mom of your word? Let’s pray for one another, that we will reflect the character of Christ to our children by keeping our promises, no matter how small!

(Post by: Ashley)


3 Responses to “Being a Mom of Your Word”

  1. 1 jolenesloan November 10, 2011 at 8:08 am

    This was excellent, Ashley! Such a great truth and reminder! Thank you for sharing your heart.

  2. 2 Shilo November 10, 2011 at 10:30 pm

    Conviction! 🙂 I am working on this in my life from the other angle of following through with discipline, although I am probably also guilty of the things you mentioned to. So thankful His grace covers us and His Spirit changes us.

  3. 3 Angie L. November 13, 2011 at 3:32 am

    I like it! I’m so glad that you’re back to your blog. I feel like I learn so much from you!

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